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UNBASHED🌈

She scrawled until she was dizzy

Paragraphs of former lovers

She raised a glass of champagne

to her wrecking divorce

Cut off the emptiness

She stood in front of the

awkward silence and crying sunrise

She ignored the pointing fingers

of the masses

A tint of courage glares

She waved goodbye to her chain

and thoughtless pigeon

A flag of independence was raised

She opened up the door to freedom

She ran outside the margins

Bounds were not outlined

She thought the glass was half empty

She tore the corner of her mind

Unveiling a book without a name

She saw a glimpse of a brave

and unabashed sphere

Hold me

Take me to my home.

Home is where my heart is.

Home’s on that windy hill.

Above a secret valley.

Hovering, a heavenly cloud.

Take me to my home.

I’m waiting here alone.

All packed ready to go.

Vacating this old place.

Leaving this world behind.

Take me to my home.

The beyond will be greener.

I know you’ll be there.

You’ve been waiting so long.

I know you’ll hold me again.

Hold me in our home.

-alfyaa

The reasons people don’t follow there passion

Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.”

Pursuing your passion can mean different things to different people, but no matter your definition, it seems people always have a reason why they can’t do it. If you’re someone who has always wanted to follow your dream but never gained any traction, here are some answers.

“I Don’t Know What My Passion Is”:-

It’s pretty hard to pursue something you aren’t sure about. If you can’t seem to find something you’d love doing, you’re not alone. Many of us struggle with what our own ideas of what a “dream job” would be. If you feel a little like you’re just floating along the river of life, it might be a good idea to grab a paddle and start exploring uncharted waters. Take a step out of your comfort zone and experience new things. When you’re stuck in your bubble, you’re afraid of being uncomfortable. Branch out and see what’s out there. Eventually, you’ll encounter something that gets you excited. Where should you look? You must have some idea of what interests you a little bit.Do the research, talk to others who share the passion you’re curious about, and put yourself in situations that force yourself to ask “is this something I like?” You can also ask yourself the simple question of “what do I find myself doing?” Everyone has hobbies, of course, but try to look deeper at the things that motivate you in life. A big factor in finding your passion is also recognizing what you’re good at. You are good at something, guaranteed. Maybe you have a way with numbers, or maybe you have an eye for design. One way or another, you have an ability that’s probably untapped, Think of all the ideas you have for what you’re passionate about as flowers that need to be pruned. For your ideas to grow they have to be trimmed down into something that can flourish. Spend enough time thinking, observing, and pruning, and you’ll be able to narrow down something that makes your heart skip a beat. A passion should thrill you to the core and—when you break it all down—a passion is what makes you want to live on.

“I’m Already Too Busy with Work and My Passion Doesn’t Pay the Bills”

This is the most common excuse of them all. You know exactly what you want to do, but there’s just too much stuff going on, right? The truth is, you are busy—everybody is—but by always thinking and saying that you’re busy, you’re convincing yourself that there is no possible way to find a few minutes each day to do what you want to do. There are some job exceptions out there, but you absolutely have to stop pretending like there is no time left on earth when your shift ends. It’s great to have a job while you pursue your passion—in fact, it’s ideal—but it’s definitely not an excuse to never pursue it. There is an almost endless list of great people that worked toward their goals while holding a run-of-the-mill day job. You’re tired? So were they. They had 24 hours in a day just like you. If your job allows it, find time at work to do what you love. Every little bit counts. Obviously, you don’t want your normal work to suffer, but there are plenty of ways to sneak in a little time without announcing to the world that you’re blowing off your job. You don’t have to write your novel in a week or perfect your chicken soup recipe during one lunch hour.

your passion is always a work in progress:

Move toward your goal step by step. Not only will you see your progress over time, but you’ll be more excited about your workday. You’ll be excited for that 10-minute block of time in the afternoon you get to write, or for that first half of the lunch hour that you set aside to learn how to code.

Keep in mind that pursuing your passion doesn’t necessarily mean working your dream job. There are plenty of arguments that say that “doing what you love” for a job isn’t possible for everyone. In fact—depending on what your passion is—trying to make your passion your job could be a really bad idea. It could lead you to financial ruin or even push you to despise what was once your passion. Fortunately, work isn’t the only aspect of your life (or at least it shouldn’t be). There are plenty of other avenues for you to go after that special something in your life. Work a job that’s good enough for you and go after your dream on the side. There’s no rule that says you can’t do both, and it’s more common than you think. Mike the janitor does improv comedy three nights a week, Marge in accounting is a sidewalk chalk artist, and Billy the IT guy plays the standup bass in a jazz band. If work is something that has to be its own thing in your life, find your duality and do what you love with the rest of your time.

“I Don’t Want to Sacrifice My Free Time”

Hopefully what you want to pursue is something you already seek in your free time. If not, this one’s all on you. If you don’t want to use your free time to pursue what you love, maybe you’re not as passionate about it as you thought you were. It’s important to avoid burnout, but your free time is the best time to work your way toward something.

This really is the test for how passionate you are and how much you want something. Are you willing to sacrifice your weekend freelancing? Are you willing to take night classes after a long day of work? The time is there, but will you use it? It’s entirely up to you. If you have no free time, find a way to make it. Get a babysitter, take online classes from home, or get a friend involved. One way or another, you have the power to find time for what you love. You just have to find the right balance for you.

“I’m Afraid That I’ll Fail”

Let’s get it out of the way right now: you will fail. No one gets it right the first time. Failure is how we learn, adapt, and toughen up so we can get to the point where we can succeed. Get over it and move forward. In our world, failure is everywhere, but fortunately, it’s also what keeps us all going. how just having a “good career” is an impossibility. This day and age you’ll work yourself to the bone doing something you don’t love in the hopes you’ll have a good career, but you’ll never be truly satisfied. People get there because they’re afraid to fail to do something else, something uncomfortable. Failure isn’t something you need to be afraid of, but it gets to all of us. Ask yourself “what if” questions so you can see the consequences for yourself. What harm is it if you want to start painting or play in a band? So what if the first play you act in is a disaster? With each failure, you get better and you get closer to doing the thing you love.

“I Don’t Know Where to Start”

Maybe you know exactly what you want to do, but it all seems a little overwhelming. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and you won’t achieve your huge, passionate goals in a day either. Break that big, scary goal down into a lot of little goals. Make each goal a step in the right direction,

• A SMART goal is SPECIFIC. What do I want to accomplish? Why do I want to accomplish it? What are the benefits? Who is involved? Where will it be located?

• A SMART goal is MEASURABLE. How much is needed? What tools do I need to measure progress? What targets will I establish as I progress towards my goal? How will I know when it is accomplished?

• A SMART goal is ATTAINABLE. How can my goal be accomplished? How is my goal action-oriented? How much will it cost to launch and support my goal? What knowledge and skills are needed to reach this goal?

• A SMART goal is REALISTIC. Why is my goal meaningful? Why is there a need for this goal? Why is this the right time to pursue this goal? Is this goal aligned with my core values?

• A SMART goal is TIME-BOUND. Is there a timeframe for implementation of this goal? When will this plan be implemented? What will I do within the next six months to reach my goal? What will I do within the next six weeks to reach my goal? What will I do this week to reach my goal?

• Know exactly what you’re doing every step of the way and make sure it’s quantifiable. When you can see what you’ve accomplished so far, it motivates you to keep going. If the routine is important to you, make yourself a schedule so you always know when you’re making time for your passion projects. Don’t make it overwhelming, but try and challenge yourself. Promise yourself that you’ll work on your project for 90 minutes every day, or that you’ll draw one new picture every evening. Whatever you set for yourself, the challenge will help keep you interested.

• Lastly, just get started. Taking that initial leap is the most important part of any path. If you don’t know what to write, just start typing. If you don’t know what to paint, just start making brush strokes. If you don’t know what to cook, just start pulling things out of the fridge. Force yourself to make a move and you’ll jump start your motivation.

“I Can’t-Do It Alone”

No doubt, there are many obstacles in your life that get in the way. Maybe you have children, or maybe you have to keep two jobs to stay afloat. It’s not easy. If things are bogging you down too much, remember that it’s okay to ask for help.

being honest with the people in your life if you need some support: Without support, it’s twice as hard to take on the weight of a new project. Passions are things that you have to give a lot of yourself too, and there’s only so much of you to give. Sometimes you may need more than a helping hand, it’s okay to open up about it all: Talk with friends and family, significant others, or even close coworkers. Let people in on what you’re doing and how it’s affecting you. Chances are they’ll cheer you on and do whatever they can, and someday down the road, you can return the favor. There is nothing weak about asking for help. It takes a lot of strength and courage to realize you need it and ask for it.

“I’ll Get to It Later”

No, you won’t. You’ll just keep telling yourself that until it’s too late. You have the time to do it right now. If you can’t see it, find it or make it, because eventually you really won’t have any time. Eventually, there won’t be a tomorrow that you can use as a starting point. The funny thing about time is if you don’t use it, you lose it. It will be difficult and it may take a long time, but you shouldn’t give up on a dream just because of how long it will take.

Passion ⚡️⚡️⚡️

Last weekend I tried something new, something that pulled me out of my comfort zone. I was the moderator of an author panel — and it was awesome.

Five months ago, I was asked to take on the role. The panel discussion was to be part of Pasadena Mental Health Day, a community event to raise awareness of mental health. The authors and I would discuss their Young Adult fiction books, all of which have a theme of mental illness.

Even though I didn’t know exactly what a moderator was supposed to do, I immediately said yes. As a writer and mental health advocate, I was intrigued. I’m passionate about speaking out about mental illness, to help lessen the stigma and let people know they are not alone.

At times I second-guessed myself about taking on the position. Can I really do this? Absolutely.

Over the next few months, I read each of the books. I truly loved them all. The characters resonated with me and I was amazed by how realistic the stories were. They dealt with serious mental health topics, which were expertly handled by the writers. While the books’ target audience is teens, I’d consider them crossover, great for the adult reader as well.

I’m excited to share with you these talented authors and their books:

Brandy Colbert: Little and Lion. The main character, Suzette, is also known as Little. Her stepbrother, Lionel, or Lion, has bipolar disorder. This book demonstrates how mental illness affects the entire family. This quote is from Little: “Lionel said as much to me once, how so many of the same people who are quick to empathize with physical disabilities don’t understand why someone with depression can’t just get up and get on with their day like the rest of the world.”

Kerry Kletter: The First Time She Drowned. Cassie is mentally and emotionally abused by her mother. Suicide is also a topic in this book. This quote is from Cassie, after her mom hits her and she slaps her mother back: “Her eyes widened. They were wide with the shock of how big I had gotten. Like in all this time she had been feeding me her rage and despair, depositing it into me like coins into a slot, she had never stopped to consider what might happen to all that hate.”

Lauren Miller: All Things New. Jessa has severe anxiety and panic attacks. She hides it from everyone. After a horrific accident and brain injury, Jessa’s anxiety gets worse. Jessa’s dad told her, “I want you to be free. Free from the panic and worry, free from all that terrible self-doubt I see in your eyes and blame myself for. But you have to want it too, Jessa. You have to decide not to let fear win.” Click here to read my previous post on Lauren.

Marisa Reichardt: Underwater. Morgan witnessed a mass shooting at her high school. She develops PTSD, anxiety, panic attacks, and agoraphobia. She can’t make herself step out of her family’s apartment. Morgan talks about an old friend, Taylor: “She deserves to live every single minute of her life. She deserves to pull it behind her like a kite. I envy that. Why can’t I be happy to be alive instead of afraid of living?”

The books were amazing to read, that was the easy part in my preparation. But I also had to think about the actual moderator duties. As a speaker for NAMI’s Ending the Silence, I wasn’t too worried about being in front of an audience. But this would be much different.

I delved into learning the responsibilities of a moderator. I searched online and watched YouTube videos of panels. I researched the authors and prepared questions, and hoped and prayed it’d go smoothly.

The authors were incredibly nice and supportive. They’re experienced writers and are very well-spoken. I was the new one, exposed to an unfamiliar world.

We tackled the serious topics of their books, discussed their different writing styles, and they offered words of encouragement to teens who may be struggling with a mental health condition.

Before I knew it, it was time to wrap up the discussion. I did it.

What I learned from this experience was to continue to follow my passion, even if it takes me out of my comfort zone. Keep reaching, keep growing, keep learning.

Because you never know where it might lead.

The guide towards self-love

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Self love is being happy and alive without being drunk. And with the amount of liquor that flows in our veins today, it is pretty obvious that we barely remember what it is like to look into a mirror and not see a mess. Here are five (ever-green) ways  to fall in love with yourself again:

Get a dog

Or any pet. Waking up to the heavy breath of your dog on your face, sleeping with him curled up next to you, eating dinner with his eyes on your food, and taking walks on a sunny day will make you smile like nothing else. Playing fetch as he runs around like a madman will make you laugh so hard, you’ll forget all about hating yourself. How could you hate yourself when your puppy loves you so much?

Follow your dreams

Take a step towards it. If you love cooking, cook for yourself tonight instead of binge-eating on snacks while watching FRIENDS. Actually, do both. If you love painting, draw a small stick figure on your palm today. Don’t forget to draw his smile, cause I am sure he loves himself despite being skinny. Take the smallest or the biggest step you can, but make sure it is towards what you love. If your dream is to have a bucket list pencil-sliced in half, do it.

Help someone

The world has stressed on kindness for a long time now, and yet every body goes along their day like the watches on their hands. Help someone and see them smile. Your insides will light up with satisfaction and you will feel like you matter, because trust me, you do. Like the hand-crafted note from your crush, which mattered most to you among an ocean of gifts on your birthday, you still matter on a planet with over billions of people. You’re special. Make someone else feel this way too. Give them a reason for self love.

Take therapy

No, therapy isn’t only for people with very severe mental conditions. We are prone to mental and emotional issues as humans. We tend to take a lot of stress for things that don’t matter and care way too much for people we love. And that is not bad! Be a workaholic and a hopeless romantic. But if it gets too much, talk to someone. Not necessarily a professional therapist (because they charge you a lot sometimes), even a friend is fine. Therapy is letting all the stories built up inside of you come out to leave space for new ones.

Jump on a trampoline

This will always make you laugh, trust me on that. Look around the city and find a trampoline and then jump your way out of sadness. This might sound a bit far-fetched and it probably is, but it will make you laugh like a baby and that’ll be your first step towards self love.

Make yourself smile. This is the most important step that you could take towards self love. Make yourself smile and giggle every single day.