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Living your best life from the inside out💫

Heelloo everyone. so, i’m back with another blog of mine which is LIVING YOUR BEST LIFE FROM INSIDE OUT.

When you think about living your best life what comes to mind? Do you imagine yourself jet-setting to fabulous locations around the world? Do you picture what you would be doing once you finally make the salary you deserve? Do you imagine yourself getting married and building a life with a doting partner? Often, when we think about living our best lives we focus on the external. For many of us, living our best life is about the way we look, where we are traveling, the parties we are going to, our relationships, the jobs we have, how much money we make, etc. While these external things can certainly help us to live our best lives, I’d like to propose that the most impactful way to approach living your best life is from the inside out.

Have you ever found that after the first few months of having a new car or kitchen appliance the excitement wears off? Have you gotten tired of the pattern of partying and recovering? Have you ever noticed that two weeks after returning from your vacation you were longing for the next one? I think if we’re honest with ourselves the positive effects of these external things that make it look like we are living our best lives wears off fairly quickly. We often overlook the fact that we need to live our best lives from the inside out in order to have the lasting joy that many of us are longing for. We may go on a vacation hoping for peace only to find that we’ve brought our harsh and critical mind along with us. We may find ourselves distracted and disengaged when we are doing things we enjoy. We may find that our obligations to other people keep us from living for ourselves. The following are my recommendations for ways to live your best life from the inside out. My hope is that these approaches to living your best life will help every day to feel better and also enhance your enjoyment of the fun, instagram-worthy activities that you engage in.

Practice being present

One thing that can keep us from living our best lives is not being present. There are so many distractions in the world today. Whether it is being on our phones, answering emails, messaging with people who are not with us, feeling badly about the past, or worrying about the future, many of us spend very little of our time in the present moment. Sometimes we use these distractions to escape the present moment because the present is uncomfortable or painful in some way. However, living our lives in the present allows us to experience all of the richness that life has to offer, which includes both joys and sorrows. It’s hard to enjoy spending time with your closest friends if you’re worrying about what you have to do the next day. It’s hard to really take in the beauty of the sunset if you spend the whole time trying to take the perfect picture of it.

Being present takes practice. One way to practice being present in your life is to meditate regularly. Mindfulness meditation is one a type of meditation, which involves the practice of resting your attention in the present moment and continuing to bring your attention back to the present whenever it wanders off. This is a challenge even for people who have been meditating for years! To start meditating I suggest setting aside some time (start with 5 minutes) each day or a few times a week to sit, be still, and pay attention to your breath or something else that your senses perceive in the moment. Using an app (e.g. Headspace or Calm) can help with this. Beyond meditating, I encourage you to practice becoming aware of the times when you are focused on something that is not happening in the present moment and try to bring your attention back to the present every time you notice that. For example, if while talking to a loved one you are criticizing yourself about something, see if you can bring your attention back to what your loved one is saying.

Cultivate joy in your life

While vacations and fun nights out with friends can certainly bring joy, I encourage you to think about small things you can do on a daily or weekly basis that bring you joy. Maybe taking walks outside, or going to your favorite yoga class regularly will bring you joy.  Maybe you find joy in cooking special meals or taking yourself on a great date every once in a while. Or maybe you experience joy when talking to a close friend or reading a great novel. I encourage you to spend some time identifying things that bring joy to your life and make an effort to engage in these things on a regular basis. Engaging in activities that bring you joy on a regular basis will help you to feel like you are living your best life day-to-day and not just when you’re doing something extravagant every few months.

Set boundaries so you can do what you love

One of the things that keeps many of us from living our best lives is the lack of boundaries in our lives. Setting boundaries involves saying no to other people so that we can say yes to ourselves. This can be difficult because when we set boundaries with people who are used to getting what they want from us they may get upset, which can make us feel guilty. Additionally, many of us as Black women have been socialized to put everyone in our lives before ourselves and challenging this norm by putting ourselves first can make us feel uncomfortable.

In order to do what we love we have to make time for it, which usually means prioritizing ourselves over what someone else may want from us. I encourage you to think about an area of your life where you need to set a boundary and determine what it would look like to put that boundary in place. If you give all of your extra money away to friends and family who you know won’t pay you back, consider making a budget and determining how much you can afford to give away and limiting your giving to that amount. If you you give away all of your free time, think about setting aside time each week that is just for you to do what ever will bring you joy. When you set a new boundary the people impacted may throw a tantrum and you will have to withstand their resistance and stand firm with your boundaries despite the feelings of guilt that may arise. Remember that boundaries make our lives and relationships better even if they are hard to stick to at first. Living our best lives involves regularly doing things we love. When we are doing the things we love we are usually better partners, friends, employees/employers, and parents.

What does living your best life look like for you and how can these strategies for living your best life from the inside out help you to live your best life?

-alfia

Beaming light✨ in darkness

“The sky takes on shades of orange during sunrise and sunset, the color that gives you hope that the sun will set only to rise again.

Hey lovely people, welcome back to my blog. It’s been a long time since i wrote a blog. So, here it is.

In the moments of despair and disappointment, when trouble knock you off your feet, Obstacles and adversities show up unexpectedly, Haze and fog cloud your vision, Nothing goes as planned, Fear of uncertainty strangles you, frustrations have cowed you. At that time a little ray shimmers in your heart that sails you to the place of strength and courage. Making you believe that things might just work out.

When I feel my wings are shattered by a strong gust of wind, I am struggling to fly a little voice from the deep down whispers don’t give up.. keep fighting.

When one door closes, another opens. It empowers me with positivity that helps me to stay calm and peaceful. The warm healing glow of hope not only heals but also motivates me to see things from a different perspective. It fills me with a sheer belief I can get through it and damage can no longer control my willingness to fly.

Raise the beacon of hope when life is tough on you. When we embrace hope, it influences our thought our attitude and our actions. It helps us to see the other side of fear. It is a declaration that you believe in your dreams.

Beaming light of an invisible power emerges many possibilities. Giving up is always an easy option than pushing yourself out of your comfort zone to keep moving. Hope is a little spark which encourages and heightens your energy to see change and to make changes. Hope cultivates growth that means you want something better than what you are enduring now. Hope is vital for survival, make a choice to let it in and hold it within you to set your world alight.

“Walk on with hope in your heart, and you’ll

never walk alone.”

-alfia🥀

Acceptance of truth

Realizations shock me with the truth
I see myself struggling with one side
Trying hard to be like everyone else
Using the resources I had

Bringing passed years into the light
Memories flash quickly through my head
Concentration and efforts always there
Progression slow but always sure

Many efforts I have overlooked
Busy trying to be someone else
Didn’t take time to reflect on my life
I see, now, how quickly time goes

Clouds have lifted
And my past is transparent and clear
Speed doesn’t matter when results appear
Gradually, it all becomes one

As realization shines a new light
Acceptance of truth sets me free

What you need to do is, you ned to accept what’s there, what’s left and most importantly what is yours. YOU NEED TO ACCEPT THE TRUTH BECAUSE ONE DAY IT WILL COME OUT. Nothing lasts forever and this is the reason you have to accept the reality and truth.

-Alfia🥀

Chennai Tour 2k18

Before i start the blog no one will ask me how was your trip cause i’m answering here that it was the best trip of my life. The best 5 days of my entire life♥️

It was a school trip from 29th october to 2nd november. All of my friends and most of my classmates went there. We enjoyed like hell, seriously it was amazing. The marina beach 🏖 the museums, science park, snake park, palaces and malls, our hotel, beautiful temples and yes most importantly ISRO ( the reason why we went chennai 😂).

The marina beach was awesome, the waves, climate, atmosphere and everything was amazing. The whole 10-c clicked a group picture together. It is one of the most cherished memory i will have. While we were enjoying at the beach a green snake 🐍 came out of the water and i got scared like hell because earlier that day we went to snake park and i was horrified by snakes there. The wind was blowing and our hair were blowing too and then suddenly our very interesting and irritating friend started throwing mud at us and trust me we enjoyed that too. The journey from beach to hotel was in bus and we ruined the whole bus with wet sand😂We went to snake 🐍 park, science park and museums too but our main motive and focus was to click pictures and make memories. I was scared at the snake park, hot bored in the museum and made slow motion videos at the science park😂 We went to some palace and VR mall too and did shopping there and ate food only.

I would like to mention a few people who made me eat more and more ice cream which made my voice sounds like hell. I got tonsils and my voice bursted. Thank you akshay kalra for serving me three cups of ice cream 🍦. This would not be possible without you😂 and yes i would like to say that i pressed your room’s bell too😂😂

Trust me the Chennai airport and the delhi airport was amazing. We didn’t sat there but ran to the whole airport because our flight was getting delayed over and over again. The people of chennai our so polite and humble. They interacted so sweetly and politely to us that i can’t explain. The way they talk, the way they are is amazing.

We enjoyed the most in our hotel because we made atleast 100 prank calls to the most random people and pressed bells of our schoolmates at late in the night which was the best part because they were doing the same with us too.

We celebrated our teacher’s birthday there too. It was our favourite teacher alpana mam’s 60th birthday and she enjoyed alot with us.

The air hostesses and pilot were amazing too because they were so good looking and polite with us.

Chennai you are being missed. I wish trip would have never ended. All of our fun is being missed and mere gawaaro tumhare bina yeh trip itna amazing nhi hota. Love you all, love you chennai.

-alfyaa

Being in 10th class/grade😭♥️

Heyy everyone! so i’m back with another exciting blog of mine. so this one is special. it’s extremely special because it’s specially for my friends and all the people, teachers, seniors, juniors, classmates and for my school.

Class 10? You mean the year when you suddenly start believing in and worshiping all the 33+ crore gods? The year you start reciting all the mantras you’ve ever been taught since the day you were born? Yeah. No one forgets class 10. Unless you’re like really stupid and/or lived in a cave or something. If you’re lucky enough (Hah. Sarcasm intended) to born in India, you know how just how painful R.D Sharma is. And oh God, the Board exams and all the and cramming and kesar doodh and best of luck messages from your family members and ‘Lakshya’ songs make it an experience that makes you cringe when you think about it, but it’s worth it. Add ‘hormonally unbalanced’ friends and infatuation and whatnot,  and you have 365 days of guaranteed awesomeness. It’s like you’re watching the Harry Potter series on repeat. You know you’re favourite characters are going to die but you still watch it. That is exactly what class 10 is like. You know you’re probably going to die of all the frustration of being treated like an adult but ‘You’re too young for this shit’  but you still enjoy it. yess, you enjoy it because you know you are not going to get these years back. You all will be separated into different schools, streams and different parts of the country.

I’m going to miss and love each one of you and will always do. Forgetting you will never happen. Friends, studies, board exams, love, crushes and high school.

-alfia♥️

16th Birthday 🎊

Hey people💫

You all must be assuming how much happy i am writing this blog today. Cause it’s my 16thhhh♥️

I’ve turned sweet 16 today. It’s the sixteenth year of my life. These 16 years have been wonderful. i’ve got my family and friends who are everything for me. I’ve earned so much blessings, love and care from you all. Thank you so much for making my the sixteenth year of my life an amazing one. Thank you so so so much for everything, for being in my life.

I’ve through hardships and love too. I’ve in the worst and the best too. But i always want you people to stay with me so that everytime i fall you will be there to pick me up.

CHEERS TO THE SIXTEENTH YEAR OF MY LIFE 🎊💫♥️💛

-alfyaaa

REAL FRIENDS 🍂

Hello everyone. Today’s blog is kind of important because nowadays everyone is going through that same thing. FAKE FRIENDS, FRIENDS WHO AREN’T YOURS AND NEVER WERE.

We all have been through challenging situations where we realised who cares and who doesn’t. There’s a beautiful poem that expresses how people in our lives are like a part of a tree. you have the leaves, the branches and the roots. The people that are like leaves on a tree leave. They were only meant to be in our lives for a temporary period of time. Leaves like most friendship are amazing in the beginning but take more than what they are willing to give and offer very little support and help especially through troubled seasons. They were never meant to be permanent because when things get tough they were easily blown away.

People who are like branches are the ones who say ” I’m here for you.” You can depend on me but as soon as things get tough they break off because they cannot carry the weight. These branches are there for sometime, they provide some purpose but they don’t last for very long either. Eventually these branches or so called friends break off and disconnect.

The people who are like roots stay permanent. They stay with your good, with your bad and everything you go through. They are always at your back. They go to hell and back. They break apart, fall apart, only to build again. Only to refuel and reenergise you with what you need.In my life, i have my best friend tisha and my mother who are like roots in my journey of life.

When the leaves are blown away, the branches have broken off, they won’t leave you.

NOT EVERYONE YOU LOSE IS A LOSE. 🥀

When we let go of relationships that were holding us down, relationships that were pulling us down. We allow ourselves to grow and be pulled off. Real friends can’t make our problems disappear but they are definitely not going to disappear when we are going through the problems.

-Alfia